Why is this such an unfamiliar concept with people? I wanna know why this is so hard to find.
If you don’t understand the concept think of it this way. Bonnie was Clyde’s ride or die. Down for her man no matter how far it went.
So knowing the first thought in most womens heads is WTF?
I will tell you what this statement means to me being a full grown woman twice divorced with daughters.
This has nothing to do with the criminal element or the worry of jail time. I guess you could say this is my version of ride or die if you take the ghetto aspect out of it for the independent woman. And by no means am I advocating that you should ever accept any kind of abuse! I lived with an abuser married 13 years and I will be damned if I EVER put up with that shit again.
**there are only a select group of men who are worthy of this type of devotion**
But if he has proven to you that beyond a shadow of a doubt he loves you and you feel your man is worthy then by all means give this to him.
This is what I want from my man and to get it, you gotta give it…. To be this for someone means to me….
1. NO secrets FULL disclosure
that is something it seems most people in the world have a problem with. The truth is harsh sometimes but VERY necessary. I would much rather be hurt by truth than passified with a lie. If you really love someone and that love is reciprocated it should be no problem to lay your life raw in front of them. You cannot change your past anyway and of they have a problem with something you have done well maybe its best you know upfront. For people who truly have that connection, love is not even the right word…it is so much bigger than that. TRUTH is the only way. If I ask you if these pants make my ass look big, and they do, fuck tell me so I don’t embarrass myself.
2. Having your man’s back regardless of what is happening.
Most girls I know are only out for themselves and what they can get. I, by no means, think all women are like this but….if the shoe fits and whatnot. True honest dedication is so rare anymore that it disgusts me. How can you expect a man to fight for you if you wouldn’t fight for him. I am not necessarily talking about physically fighting but if that was the case, would you? How can you expect him not to talk shit about you if you are running your mouth to your girlfriends, or even worse, his friends? Some things are meant to be kept. I mean, I dare a bitch to even try to make me say something bad about my man. Much less expect me to “dish”. At no point will my husband come back to me with hurt feelings or wounded pride because I was running my mouth.
3. Full unconditional support
If you are ok with whatever else takes up his time then dammit be ok with it all the time! Not just when its convenient. Be it sports on tv, sports in real life, hot rods, working out, carpentry, even if its knitting, just don’t expect him to quit. Put on a jersey and grab a beer or go hang out in the garage with him. A true ride or die will accept these things and try her damnedest to either be part of these activities or give her man the freedom to do what he does without interference and with the knowledge that he ain’t thinking about you every minute of the day. With my man, its the gym. I am constantly researching things so that I have more knowledge. I want to be there for him and participate when he competes. I fully support what he does and want him to do it. It makes him happy. So that is a win-win to me cuz a happy husband makes a happy wife.
4. Be Real
it is so difficult to find anybody that is real anymore. That is the major lesson I am trying to teach my daughters is to be real. Everybody knows those fake people. Everybody tolerates them but nobody likes them hell, they don’t even know who they are at their core they have lied to themselves and everybody else for so long. This is just another facet of being truthful. On the same note being real means handling your buisness. Don’t leave it for somebody else. Your job, kids, man, household, etc. It pays to be a strong, real woman in this world. Hold your head high, keep your dignity in place and never accept bullshit.
So as you may can tell I don’t actually agree with the street view of ride or die but some of the traits are admirable. I will never again accept any abuse from a man. If he is worthy of this devotion he wont be abusive or disrespectful in any way to you. If he is the right man he will recognize what you are offering is something closer to unconditional love.
He may be a flawed and imperfect, but he loves her beyond any other woman that will ever be in his life. He loves her deeply because he knows that no matter how much the world is against him she will be there by his side. While he may not show it, it forces him to have a strong loyalty for her that goes beyond fidelity, it is a soul bond.